Dear Queenie,
My fiancé and I both were on our own for years before we met and when we moved in together we had 2 of a lot things so we gave the stuff we didn’t need to a service group for their flea market.
Now we are getting married later this year and we have sent out the invitations. We keep telling people that we have everything we need and instead of giving us gifts we would rather they make a donation to their favourite charity, but some of them still insist they have to give something to us, there must be something we need.
Queenie, how do I get them to listen to me?—Annoyed
Dear Annoyed,
Repeat your request – politely – as often as necessary. For those who still ignore it, you always can donate their gifts to your favourite service group for their flea market as you did before, with or without telling the givers what you did with them. But be sure to send every gift-giver of either sort a nice thank-you note.
