Dear Queenie,
I don’t much like my wife’s sister, but she lives on another island and we don’t see her very often. It turns out she asked my wife to lend her a big amount of money and she did, without telling me and without getting her sister to put anything in writing about repaying the loan.
I only found out about this by accident and I am angry at my wife for not telling me about it.
Now it’s been more than a year and her sister hasn’t even started to pay her back.
Queenie, how can I forgive my wife for keeping this a secret from me?—Angry husband
Dear husband,
Your wife knows how you feel about her sister and took it for granted that you would not want to give her any money. However, your wife loves her sister and wanted to help her out.
The fact that she did it without telling you was not right and I hope you can forgive her for that if she promises not to do anything like it again.
