Dear Queenie,
One night when I was out with friends (all men) and I had too much to drink I showed my best friend some very intimate pictures of my wife. After the drinks wore off I was embarrassed that I showed him the pictures, but later we got to talking about our wives and I realized I kind of liked that he saw her that way and since then I keep thinking about showing him more pictures of her.
Queenie, is this normal? Why do I want to do it? I know my wife would be very angry.—Confused husband
Dear Husband,
This new inclination is very kinky and I agree that your wife would be furious if she knew what you had done and wanted to do again. If you value her goodwill and want to save your marriage, you must resist the urge. If necessary, get some professional counselling to help you deal with – and hopefully get over – it.
Dear Queenie,
My parents are divorced and I live with my mother. I never knew the reason for their divorce. I love my aunt, my father’s sister, but my mother doesn’t like her at all and won’t even speak to her.
Queenie, how do I manage all this?—Pulled 2 ways
Dear Pulled 2 ways,
It is okay for you to love both people, but it is not okay for either of them to try to get you to take sides against the other, and if either one of them does this they are totally wrong. However, if it comes to that, your loyalty should be with your mother, as you are in her custody.
Dear Queenie,
My daughter married a man from a rich family and since the wedding they have spent a lot of time with his family but don’t have any time for us, her parents, and we hardly ever even hear from them.
We treated this man like one of our own and it’s hard to believe he doesn’t want any relationship with the people who are going to be his children’s (if they ever have any) grandparents.
Queenie, is there anything we can do to make things better?—Lonely in-laws
Dear In-laws,
Keep in touch with your daughter and, through her, with your son-in-law, ask her if you have done anything to offend her or her husband, and hope things will improve when (if) they have children.
Dear Queenie,
My sister’s husband cheated on her several years ago, but she found out from some friends who saw him with the other woman. My sister didn’t break up with him over this and since then she has been trying to keep their marriage together, but he doesn’t seem to be sorry for what he did and doesn’t seem to have changed his ways and I just don’t like him anymore.
Queenie, how can I manage to be polite to him when the family all get together on holidays or other special occasions?—Angry sister-in-law
Dear Sister-in-law,
I know this will be difficult for you, but keep reminding yourself how much more difficult it was, and probably still is, for your sister. On occasions when your brother-in-law is present, avoid him as much as possible, and when you cannot do so, try to put your thoughts about his behaviour out of your mind and treat him as politely as you can manage – for your sister’s sake.
Dear Queenie,
I’m married and I have 2 children, but a lot of my friends are still single. Lots of times when they want us to do something together I just don’t have the time for it. I have known some of these friends from when we were small and I met some of them at church or at work and most of them don’t know each other.
Queenie, what’s a good quick way to introduce them all to each other and then let them go on and get acquainted?—Busy wife and mother
Dear Busy,
Tell your various friends that there are some other friends of yours that you think they would like and you would like for them to meet each other. Then invite them all to have a quick snack at a place that is convenient for everyone, introduce them to each other, and hope they will all find new friends in the group.
