Dear Queenie,
I’m divorced, dating a man who is also divorced, and we are just perfect for each other, but he doesn’t want to get married because he said his previous marriage ended because there wasn’t any sex and he’s afraid that if we get married the physical part of our relationship will just stop.
Queenie, how can I convince him that won’t happen, or should I just give up on him?—Confused divorcee
Dear Divorcee,
If you can be happy with this man without getting married, stick with him. But if you insist on getting married this man is not for you and you will have to find someone else.
Dear Queenie,
I’m going to have a baby, my first child, and it’s a boy. Some of my friends say it’s harder to raise a boy child and some say it’s harder to raise a girl.
Queenie, who is right?—Mother-to-be
Dear Mother-to-be,
There are different problems associated with raising a boy or a girl, but either one is just as difficult as the other. For information you can depend on, talk to your obstetrician and later your paediatrician, and possibly a professional counsellor as the child grows older.
Dear Queenie,
A person I have been friends with since I was a child uses a lot of bad language, including the “F” word. They also have a very loud voice and it’s embarrassing to be with them in public where everybody can hear them.
Queenie, how can I tell them how much they embarrass me?—Their friend
Dear Friend,
Tell them just what you just told me. You will be doing them a favour, so do not feel badly about what you are telling them.
Dear Queenie,
Firstly, thank you for your work that you do.
My question to you today is that I have a friend who says she doesn’t want to be around my fiance, that whenever we link up to not bring him around. When I asked her give me one good reason why, she replied saying she “doesn’t take his spirit, he seems ungeniune.” To me that’s disrespectful of her, but I don’t know if it’s disrespectful and I don’t know what my next plan of action should be in regard to this.
Queenie, please help.—Detoxifying
Dear Detoxifying,
You and your fiance do not have to be together every minute of every day.
Your friend is not being disrespectful, she just does not agree with your fiance’s attitude in certain matters.
Because she does not like him, for whatever reason, just leave him out when you link up with her.
Dear Queenie,
I’m getting on in years, in my 70s. I’m the one my family goes to when they have a problem, but it’s getting to be too much for me.
Queenie, would it be selfish of me to tell them it’s time to find soemone else to go to?—Worn-out Grandma
Dear Grandma,
There would be nothing selfish about telling your family your are getting too old and tired to handle the stress of their problems anymore. It would help if you could suggest someone else they could go to with their problems.
