Dear Queenie,
My granddaughter is going on 5 and still sucks on a pacifier all the time and her mother won’t take the trouble to get her to give it up. Aside from the fact that it’s just plain disgusting, I’m afraid it will spoil her teeth and maybe make her more likely to catch infections, but I can’t convince her mother of the dangers.
Queenie, how do I convince her?—Worried Grampa
Dear Queenie,
I’m a tall woman, almost 5 feet 11 inches, and my brother-in-law always calls me “Gargantua.” I’m not overweight, according to my doctor, and I find this insulting. I told him so, but he still does it.
Queenie, how do I get him to stop?—Tall, not fat
Dear Queenie,
I’ve been retired and on pension for a couple of years and now my wife has retired too. I’ve been looking forward to having more time with her, but it bothers me that she has stopped colouring her hair and is letting it go natural, which is gray.
I guess the reason it bothers me is that it makes me feel so old to be married to an obviously old woman.
Queenie, how can I get her to keep on coloring her hair?—Old fogey with young ideas
Dear Queenie,
There is one man who works at a well-known business on the island who works with girls from other countries and constantly tries to have a relationship with them. Usually he succeeds.
Acting like a serious boyfriend, when the girl falls in love with him and of course she wants to stay with him on the island (because of him, not the island), he always refuses her by saying he can’t afford her to stay by him, he doesn’t have enough money (he’s got upper standard salary though) and that she can’t stay on the island even if they marry.
It also happened several times that a girl got pregnant with him and he told her to take it out as he can’t support her. He’s been doing these things for many years already.
On the other hand, he is trying to be a good son in front of his beloved mother and his family who think he is a great man (he’s not married, lives alone, only one child).
When I was on the island I wanted to visit his mother to let her know about him and now when off the island I wanted to write a letter to her but I think she wouldn’t get to read it as he can stop the letter as he lives next to her and she doesn’t see so well anymore.
Queenie, what is there to be done in this case to stop him?—Too much
Dear Queenie,
I got divorced several years ago after being married for almost 10 years. However, my parents still think of my ex as part of the family and invite him to all family gatherings. I think she is trying to pretend we are still married and is disrespecting my feelings.
Now Christmas is coming up and she will invite my ex even though I will be bringing my boyfriend that I have been with for almost 2 years.
Queenie, how can I get my mother to accept that things have changed and I have moved on?—Disrespected daughter
