Dear Queenie,
I was seeing this man for a couple of years, but not anymore and now he is seeing another woman I happen to know fairly well who knows he was seeing me before her.
Queenie, how can this slut do something like that to someone she knows? How would she feel in my place?—Ex-girlfriend
Dear Ex,
Why is this other woman any more a slut than you were for “seeing” this man? Unless he made some kind of commitment to you that you did not mention, he has every right to “see” anyone he chooses and so does she.
Get over it (him) and find someone new.
Dear Queenie,
I have started smoking but my parents don’t know because I always go out of the house to have a cigarette because I know they wouldn’t approve.
I’m tired of keeping this secret, but I can’t afford to move out.
Queenie, should I confess and “face the music”?—Smoking hot girl
Dear Smoking,
Better yet, why not quit smoking? It certainly would be better for your health, now and in the future.
Furthermore, I suspect your parents are already aware of your smoking, because cigarette smoke tends to cling to the smoker’s hair and clothes, and to a non-smoker the nicotine addict smells like a dirty ashtray. Is that really how you want others to perceive you?
Dear Queenie,
The other night when I came home very late I noticed that a car parked in front of my house had its headlights on. The next morning the lights were still on.
Queenie, since I happen to know who the car belongs to, should I have gone over to their house and waked them up to warn them?—Neighbour
Dear Queenie,
My son had a big argument with one of his sisters and since then he has cut himself off from the entire family, including me. That means I never get to see his children, my grandchildren anymore.
Queenie, how can I fix things?—Worried grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
I have to wonder why your son would cut himself off from everyone in the family because of a quarrel with one sister, unless the rest of you took the sister’s side against him (or at least did not take his side against that sister) – or if you all keep trying to get him to make up with that sister.
Try writing him a letter explaining that you refuse to take anyone’s side in such a quarrel, but neither will you pressure him to make up with his sister, and expressing your regret at not seeing your grandchildren – and hope for the best.
Dear Queenie,
I just found out my boyfriend gave me an STD. He claims he has never cheated on me. He says he must have got it before we were together and never knew he had it, but my doctor doesn’t seem to believe him.
Queenie, what do you think?—Doubtful
Dear Doubtful,
I think your doctor may have a point.
On the other hand, is this your only concern about your boyfriend? If so, give him the benefit of the doubt.
But if there are other things about him that also worry you, you might want to give some serious thought to the future of this relationship.
