Dear Queenie,

I started working in my family’s business a little while ago and I don’t know much about it, but I’m trying to learn and I come in early and stay late. My problem is that most of the others who work here think I’m spoiled and stuck-up and I only got the job because I’m family.

Queenie, how can I get them to show me some respect?—Disrespected employee

Dear Disrespected,

This kind of thing happens to many persons who start working in a family business. Keep doing what you are doing – come in early, stay late, and learn all you can. In time, it will pay off in many ways.

Dear Queenie,

When I go to some kind of party, like a wedding or whatever, I like to be able to chat with the other guests, my family or friends, but the music is so loud we can’t hear each other and I even start to get a headache.

Queenie, why do they have to play it so loud?—Deafened Guest

Dear Deafened Guest,

You can always mention the problem to the hosts and ask them to have the music turned down a little. And bring earplugs in case that does not help, or be prepared to just walk out.

Dear Queenie,

I’m in high school and I’m starting to have dates, but for a lot of kids my age that means drinking and having sex and I don’t want to get involved in any of that.

Queenie, my problem is there’s a guy I like, but if I go out with him and he wants me to do any of that what can I do?—Still too young for all that

Dear Too Young,

I am sure there are many youngsters your age who are not into “all that”. Socialise with them and avoid the ones who are too “active”, and have anyone you want to go out with meet your parents before you do.

And if you ever find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, call your parents to come and pick you up.

Dear Queenie,

I’m in my 50s and have been married for a couple of years to a man who has a teenage son who has started drinking and using drugs and a mother who has been very sick.

My husband used to be romantic, giving me flowers and taking me out on “dates”, but not so much anymore, but he still expects me to have sex with him whenever he wants without any “romance” leading up to it and he doesn’t think I’m being fair to him if I’m not in the mood. I suggested we get counselling, but he won’t go.

Queenie, is he right and I’m wrong?—Fed-up wife

Dear Wife,

This is not about who is right or wrong.

Your husband is under a lot of stress with his mother and son, but he still wants to connect with you and, like a lot of men, to him that means sex, not romance.

Tell him that you need him to be a little bit “romantic” once in a while (maybe once a week?) and you will not feel so neglected, but if he cannot manage even that, it would seem he was faking that attitude before.