Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together since he was 14 and I was 13. He was the first boy I ever slept with.
Now we are 29 and 28. We have 4 children and he also has 4 kids by other women. I want us to get married, but I’m not sure I can trust him. I keep thinking he’s going to cheat again.
Queenie, what do you think?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
I think he has proven quite thoroughly that he cannot be trusted, and I don’t think going through a marriage ceremony will change him. I think you should see a lawyer to set up child support payments and start looking for another boyfriend – one you can trust.
I also think you are a perfect example of why youngsters should wait to have sex until they are old enough to fully understand the consequences; why, when they do, they should practice safe sex; and why they should not “go steady” – or whatever the current term is – at too young an age.
Incidentally, I note that you say he was the first boy you ever slept with, but you don’t say he is the only one. Could he be wondering if he can trust you?
