Dear Queenie,
I am a 19-year-old girl. I am in love for the first time, but I just met him and I don’t want to tell my parents now, because they already told me any time I meet someone, if I’m not really sure about the relationship don’t tell them.
The problem is now they know it from people and start to cuss me and say that they hear my name all about. Most of the problem is because the person and I don’t share the same faith.
Queenie, could you help-me?—Faithful girl
Dear Faithful girl,
I find it shameful that parents would refuse to take an interest in their daughter’s friendships unless she is serious about the relationship. It is precisely when a girl is unsure of how she feels about a man that she needs their guidance most.
I also find it sad, to say the least, that loving parents would pre-judge their daughter’s boyfriend because he is of a different faith. It is a common problem, but I still find it regrettable.
I hope the reason they are concerned is the problems that might arise between you because of the differences in your backgrounds, and not just a bigoted refusal to accept him because of his different religious beliefs.
I can only suggest that you sit down with them, try to explain how you feel and ask them to get to know your boyfriend before they pass judgement on him. If they are not willing to do so, you will have to be prepared to choose between him and them.
