Dear Queenie,
Both my husband and I are in our 50s and we worry about his older sister who lives on another island. She has a part-time job but other than that she lives alone. We get in touch with her regularly but she never tries to get in touch with us and we would never know if she got sick or something happened to her. Also, we do not know how she would want us to handle her affairs if she died.
My husband and I both still work full-time and our finances are limited, so we don’t have time and even if we did we can’t afford to go to visit her.
Queenie, how can we get some help?—Worried about her
Dear Worried,
Ask your sister-in-law for contact information for her lawyer, if she has one, her neighbours, her bank(s) and the place where she works, so you will have someone to call if you cannot reach her. And there must be social organisations in the place where she lives that could give you advice now and could assist her and you if (when!) something goes wrong with her.
