Undecided Girlfriend

Dear Queenie,

  My boyfriend thinks smoking pot is okay, and having sex right away with someone you’re dating. I think both of these things are totally wrong.

  Queenie, except for these things I really like him a lot. Should I stick with him and hope he changes?—Undecided Girlfriend

Dear Girlfriend,

  Smoking marijuana is illegal and can be addictive, which almost certainly will lead to legal and other problems, if it has not done so already. And a guy who pressures you for sex on the first date when you are clearly unwilling is inconsiderate, to put it politely.

  Try to discuss all this with him and see how it goes, but if things do not change quickly, dump him and look for someone more agreeable.