Dear Queenie,
I don’t know what to do about my boyfriend. We’ve been going together off and on for about five years and even lived together for about a year, but then he decided he wasn’t sure he wanted to be in a committed relationship, so we broke it off.
After a few months we decided to try again, but the same thing happened. It’s been about 3 months now and I heard he has a new girlfriend, but he keeps calling me.
I love him and really want things to work out between us, but I just don’t know if he is really ready to settle down.
Queenie, what do you think?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
I think you’re probably right; this guy isn’t really ready to settle down. He may be using you as a “safety net” to keep from getting too serious with his new girlfriend, or he may be -the type who likes best what he can’t have and loses interest when he has it.
You can go out with him if you enjoy his company, but don’t put much faith in him.
Meanwhile, I suggest you date other men. You may very well meet someone else with whom you would like to spend the rest of your life and who feels the same way about you. And if that happens, I’ll bet this guy will be right there trying to persuade you to come back to him, but don’t fall for his line again.
