Dear Queenie,
There’s this boy who wants to go out with me, but I think he’s still going out with this other girl. He told me they were finished, but I didn’t believe him. He still asked me out, so I finally went out with him. We’re going for about 6 months now.
I think he doesn’t love me, because he never told it to me. I already told him that I love him and he never even said “I love you” too. So don’t you think that I’m right that he doesn’t love me?
So what do you think, Queenie?—Precious
Dear Precious,
I think you are probably right; he doesn’t love you. Either that, or he has trouble saying the words, as many older men also do.
But that is no reason to stop going out with him. You don’t have to be in love with a person to go out with them, as this boy is probably well aware. You can enjoy a boy’s company even if you are not in love with him.
I also think you are too quick to fall in love. Try to take it more slowly. You will have plenty of time for that when you are older. In the meantime, you should learn to tell the difference between sexual attraction and love. They are not the same thing!
