When our baby was born a few weeks early my family and my husband’s were very supportive all the time we were in the hospital, but some of them thought it was rude of us to not want any visitors the first day we got home and some of them won’t have anything to do with us now.
Queenie, we have tried to get them to understand but they are still vexed. What more can we do?—New parents
Dear New parents,
I think your relatives are not very considerate, wanting you to entertain visitors on your first day home from the hospital. Explain to them (again!) that you needed time to settle down and adjust to your new circumstances, and that now they are welcome to visit if they still wish to do so – and if they can do so in a manner that will be pleasant for you and your child.