Dear Queenie,
My daughter-in-law was a widow with 2 small boys when my son married her almost 20 years ago. He became like a father to the younger boy, but not to the older one, who was always very close to his mother.
The boy is now an adult and is still his mama’s boy. They call and text each other several times a day, he wouldn’t go away for university so he went to USM for a while but then he dropped out, and now he can’t find a good job so he still lives with my son and his mother and follows her around all the time and whenever she goes out he goes with her.
I can’t figure out how my son got to know her so well that he married her, but of course her son was only a child at that time.
Queenie, what do you think of all this?—Mother-in-law with questions
Dear Mother-in-law,
Apparently your daughter-in-law and her older son clung to each other for comfort when her first husband, the boy’s father, died, and have remained so close ever since.
I do not believe they have an incestuous relationship, or she would not have married your son, but nevertheless their relationship is not a healthy one for either of them.
Your son should try to help his stepson become independent of his mother. Professional counselling for the whole family might help.
