Dear Queenie,
My son’s fiancée’s mother is dead so whenever she has a problem with my son she comes running to me for advice and help. This is a real problem for me because I love my son and don’t want to take sides against him, but I am fond of her too and want to stay on good terms with her.
Queenie, how can I make her stop doing this?—Mother-in-law-to-be
Dear Mother-in-law-to-be,
Tell your son’s fiancée that if she is old enough to get married she is old enough to learn to deal with such personal problems herself and/or with her fiancé, your son, and you refuse to get involved.
If she still needs help with all this, suggest professional premarital counselling for her and/or for both of them.
