Dear Queenie,
My brother is 10 years older than me and we never got along even when we were kids. In fact, I haven’t seen or spoken to him in years.
Now his son tells me his father is dying of cancer and asked if I wanted to come see him.
Queenie, I really don’t want to go visit my brother just because he is deathly ill. Do you think I should go anyway?—Estranged kid brother
Dear Kid brother,
You do not have to, but it might be a kindness to go to say goodbye to your brother, if only to make your nephew feel better (or just a little less bad). After all, he is losing his father, whom he presumably loves.
