Dear Queenie,
I like a guy, but I didn’t really tell him how I actually feel about him. Every time I try to, I get lost in words or he ignores it. I know that he knows and that he doesn’t really want anything to do with my feelings for him. I am kind of okay with that.
In the meantime, I try very hard to forget what I would like from him or how I would want him to act. I am not trying to change him. I really need to accept our friendship the way it is without my romantic feelings getting involved every time. I do want to be friends with him and I truly don’t want to harass him with my feelings.
Queenie, can you give some help in doing so?—Mixed up feelings
Dear Mixed up feelings,
For the time being, try to confine your friendship with this guy to group activities where your romantic feelings will be easier to keep under control.
Try also to broaden your interests to fields that do not include him, where you might have a chance to meet other guys in whom you might become (hopefully, mutually) interested.
Finally, try to give yourself more time away from him. Again, you will have a better chance to meet someone else you like if you are not concentrating your attention on this guy who isn’t interested in you.
