Dear Queenie,
I was divorced several years ago and since then I have had several unsatisfactory relationships. I finally decided to give up on hoping to ever find the right man for me, but I feel terribly lonely.
Most of the people I know are married and they never invite me to their homes even when they have special occasions or parties. I have even suggested we get together for dinner or something and invited them to my house but they are always too busy.
I thought married women loved to fix up their single friends, but it seems more like they think I am after their husbands.
Queenie, why must I spend the rest of my life alone?—Lonely Divorcee
Dear Lonely Divorcee,
You don’t necessarily have to spend the rest of your life alone, but a change of attitude would seem to be in order. Stop thinking about “finding the right man” and start working on living a happy, fulfilled life. Find some new interests and attend public functions that relate to them. Join some new groups of mixed gender where you will meet both men and women who share your interests.
Remember, desperate lonely people are rarely attractive to others, except for those who want to prey on their vulnerability. On the other hand, happiness and a positive outlook attract friendship (and romance) like honey attracts flies.
