Dear Queenie,
When my wife was in the hospital for some tests she was supposed to call me and let me know when the results came in. It turned out that she needed surgery and instead of calling me she called her mother, who lives in the States, to come to stay in our house to be with her.
So instead of being with my wife in the hospital I had to stay home and cook and look after her mother and drive her to and from the hospital.
Queenie, I know her mother deserved to know what was going on, but shouldn’t I have been the one to look after my wife instead of taking care of her mommy while mommy looked after my wife?—Left out husband
Dear Left out,
Certainly your mother-in-law had a right to know what was going on with her daughter and would want to be there for her at a time like that. However, your wife should have turned to you first, and should not have expected you to carry the burden of her mother’s visit while you were worried about her. That is what marriage is all about, although marriage vows of “forsaking all others” do not mean shutting out other family members entirely.
