Dear Queenie,
I’ve been married for more than 20 years to a man who has ADHD and a much lower IQ than I have, according to tests he was given when he was still a minor He’s a good man and tries his best, but he just can’t seem to hold any kind of a job.
I have a college degree and a good job and it gets frustrating at times that I have to be the provider for the two of us and never could take time off to have a baby.
Queenie, how do I cope with this frustration?—Childless
Dear Childless,
If your marriage has lasted for more than 20 years either you have the patience of a saint or your husband is doing something right – making up in other ways for his inability to provide for you. Concentrate on the positive aspects of your marriage, not on your husband’s shortcomings.
