My unmarried teenage daughter has a daughter that her grandmother, my 80-year-old mother, doesn’t know about.
Queenie, should I tell Mom about this or would it be too stressful for her?—Keeping a secret
Dear Keeping a secret,
Your mother may be surprised to learn that you have been hiding from her the fact that she has a great-granddaughter, but she should know about it. Leave it up to her whether she wants to meet her great-grandchild.