Dear Queenie,
I am writing you because I am curious to know if I can be pregnant or not. My boyfriend and I had sex the day before my period and the day after. On both occasions he came inside of me more than once.
A friend told me that you won’t get pregnant unless you have sex two weeks before your period and the boy comes inside of you.
Queenie, I really want to know if what she is saying is true and if there is a slight possibility that I am pregnant or a big possibility.—Just curious
Dear Just curious,
There is always a possibility of becoming pregnant if you have unprotected sex. Your friend is probably thinking of a birth control method known as the “rhythm system” that depends on knowing what are your most fertile days and not having sex on those days.
However, the rhythm system is notoriously unreliable, as it is possible to become pregnant on other days than your most fertile ones. In fact, there is a joke that the medical term for a woman who uses the rhythm system is “mother.”
Furthermore, leaving aside the question of possible pregnancy, having unprotected sex is always dangerous because of the possibility of becoming infected with HIV and/or other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
You apparently have a lot to learn about the way your body functions. Ask your doctor or the Women’s Desk for information about safe sex, pregnancy and STDs. And until you do, don’t have sex!
