I invited my brother and his wife for dinner on Thanksgiving because they didn’t have any other plans. Then I invited my sister and her husband if they didn’t have any other plans, but she told me they had already invited their son and his family and she wanted to bring them along.
I told her “no”, that the invitation was only for her and her husband if they didn’t have any other plans, and we just couldn’t manage so many people in our small apartment, and now she is mad at me and won’t talk to me.
Queenie, did I do something wrong?—Invitation Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
No. An invitation is only for the person(s) specified in the invitation and the invitee has no right to assume it is okay to expand it to additional people if it is not convenient for the would-be host.