Dear Queenie,
I haven’t seen or heard from my granddaughter for many years, since she was a teenager. I wouldn’t know it was her if I saw her on the street. Now she is getting married and I have received an invitation to her wedding. I think the only reason she invited me is because she expects me to get her a gift.
Queenie, should I go?—Ignored grandmother
Dear Grandmother,
You do not have an obligation to attend your granddaughter’s wedding or to send her a gift if you do not go. However, you should definitely RSVP the invitation – and, if only as a lesson in courtesy, send her a congratulations card.
