Dear Queenie,
I have been together with my girlfriend all through high school and we are going to be going to the same university after we graduate. We think it would be a good idea to get an apartment together so we can share expenses instead of living in separate apartments or in dormitories, which will be much more expensive, but our parents won’t even talk about the idea.
We are both old enough to do whatever we want, but we don’t want to be on the outs with our families.
Queenie, how can we get them to agree with us?—High school senior
Dear High school senior,
I am afraid I have no good answer to the question you have asked, because I agree with your parents. Going away to university will mean many big changes in your lives, and you and your boyfriend will have more than enough to cope with without the added strain of actually living together with a “love partner” for the first time in your lives.
What I suggest is that you go along with what your parents want for at least the first year of university. After that you will have more experience and will be in a better position to persuade your parents – that is, if you still want to share an apartment.
