My girlfriend is a widow. Her husband died of cancer several years ago. She says she wants to go on with her life with me, but she talks about him all the time and compares me to him and says he would do things better than I do.
Queenie, how can I get her to let me be me, not a ghost of her lost husband?—Her new love
Dear New love,
Have you told your girlfriend how it makes you feel when she talks about her lost love? If not, tell her that you sympathise with her loss, but how the comparison makes you feel.
Perhaps you can help her find a grief support group who will help her work through her feelings of loss and move on to a new life.