Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I got engaged a while ago after we had been seeing each other for a couple of years, but up to now we haven’t set a wedding date or even talked about it.
My fiancé gave me a beautiful ring when he proposed, but I owe a lot of money on my credit cards and I don’t make enough to catch up, so I have been looking for a better job, but up to now I haven’t found one, and he says he won’t get married until I have good credit.
Queenie, what more can I do?—Getting desperate
Dear Getting desperate,
Your fiancé may want to be sure you are not just marrying him for the financial security he can give you, which is not unreasonable. Stop pressing him to set a wedding date until you have arranged to settle your debts. If he still will not set a date then, it will be time to think twice about your relationship.
Meanwhile, if you cannot find a better-paying job, think about finding a second, part-time job to boost your income.
And stop charging things on your credit cards and building up your debt.
