Dear Queenie,
From the time our son was born my wife has kept him with her all the time, even at night next to her in our bed. Now he is 3 years old and he still sleeps in our bed, so there is no privacy for us to do anything that might lead to our having another child, if you get my meaning.
Queenie, when will it be time for him to have his own bed in his own room?—Frustrated father
Dear Father,
Your son should have had his own bed from the time he was born. That is what cradles, bassinets and cribs are for. And at three years old it is time for him to have his own room to sleep in as well.
Have a talk with your paediatrician and ask him to explain these things to your wife.
Is it possible that your wife is doing this at least partly to avoid “doing anything that might lead to (y)our having another child”? Marital counselling for the two of you might also be a good idea. And if she really does not want to get pregnant again, there are better means of contraception, which her doctor can explain to her.
