Dear Queenie,

  A few years ago, after we were married for many years, my wife found out I was cheating on her even though we had sex very often, and we separated. I went to counselling and found out I was a sex addict. I went to counselling for that and got other help and managed to change my ways. Then I lost my job and my wife (we were still separated, but not divorced) let me move back in with her but in a separate bedroom.

  Now we live together and go to counselling together, and go out together and cuddle up while we watch TV and sometimes even sleep together, but my wife still doesn’t want to ever have sex with me again.

  Queenie, can we make our marriage work if there is no sex?—Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,

  It is possible, but it will take a lot of work from both of you. This is a question that should be addressed during your counselling sessions. There is hope, as you both have already made a lot of progress in dealing with your problems.