Dear Queenie,
I met a man I thought was wonderful and we planned to be married. But when I moved in with him I found out that everything he told me was a lie.
He said he had no family, but I found out his parents are still alive and he has brothers and sisters on another island and six children he pays support for. He said he went to college, but he didn’t. He even lied about his age!
I love him, but I have serious doubts about marrying him.
Do you think I should go ahead with the wedding, Queenie?—Fiancée in doubt
Dear Fiancée in doubt,
My rule of thumb for questionable decisions is: When in doubt, don’t! And for dubious situations: When in doubt, get out! In this case, both would seem to apply.
One of the most important ingredients of a good marriage is trust, and you have already discovered that this man’s word is not to be trusted. Heaven knows what else he has lied about that you have not found out yet, like maybe a wife (or two or three) to go with those six children (are you sure there aren’t more?).
Dump this guy fast, before you find out he has lied about something that might get you into serious trouble, like a drug habit or criminal activity or a mountain of unpaid debts.
