Dear Queenie,
We have been living in an apartment building for more than 10 years now and we loved it up until lately when our new neighbour moved in. He comes home with all kinds of different women and has this crazy sex drive that goes on for hours.
Our problem is the noise and the unthinkable times he chooses to do his thing. They get so loud that we stay in our apartment and hear their groans very clearly. We have two young primary-school-age children and on many occasions they would hear them and come up to us and ask what that noise is.
Sometimes we have to make up stories or turn up the volume of the TV whenever they start.
Queenie, it reached to the point that we sometimes try to leave the house because they do that for hours. He is aware that we and the other neighbours hear them, but they still continue without any consideration.—Disturbed
Dear Disturbed,
Have you spoken directly to this neighbour about the problem, or are you just taking it for granted that he is aware of it? If you have spoken to him and he ignores your requests, he deserves whatever reminders you choose to give him.
For example, you and the other neighbours could call him on the phone whenever he is making too much noise. The possibility of being interrupted at an inconvenient moment might encourage him to keep the noise level down. Unless, of course, he is smart enough to take the phone off the hook or turn off the ringer before he starts.
You could pound on the walls and yell at him to shut up when he disturbs you. If you can hear him, he certainly can hear you. Maybe he doesn’t care about being overheard, but at least some of his female companions probably will.
You should also discuss this problem with the landlord (or landlady, as the case may be). It would be best if more than one or more of the other tenants of the building made the complaint, separately and/or together. There is probably a noise clause in the man’s lease, and possibly a nuisance clause as well. I doubt the landlord would allow one horny sex fiend to offend any number of long-standing well-paying tenants. He/she might also have moral objections to this kind of goings-on on his/her property.
