Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been living together for several years and we have finally decided to get married. But when we told my mother about it she acted like she couldn’t care less.
She said she didn’t have any money to pay for a big wedding, so we told her we didn’t want one. Then she said she wouldn’t be there anyway, because she had made plans to go on vacation that weekend.
I want her to be there. She’s the only parent I have, because I never knew my father, and I’m her only child, and I can’t understand why she wouldn’t want to be there.
Queenie, what’s wrong with her?—Deeply disappointed
Dear Deeply disappointed,
She may not approve of your boyfriend. She may not approve of the fact that you have been living together. She may think you are too young or otherwise not yet ready to get married. And maybe she cannot afford, financially or otherwise, to change her vacationn plans.
But why are you asking me this question? You should be asking your mother! Please do so right away.
