Dear Queenie,

My husband recently became the manager of a family business. I need to get a job and I told him I would like to work there, but he won’t even consider it.

Queenie, it is insulting that he thinks I am good enough to raise his children, but not to work in the family business. What do you say?—Offended wife

Dear Wife,

Perhaps your husband prefers to separate his business life from his family life, or is afraid some other members of his family might object to his having his wife work there. If you really want to work outside the home in addition to raising your children, you should think about getting a job somewhere else.

Dear Queenie,

I like to cook and my wife doesn’t so I make most of our meals, but after I put the food on the table she starts making a salad or getting some leftovers from the refrigerator. She says the salad is because something is missing from what I made, or the leftovers are because she doesn’t want them to go bad.

Queenie, I think she should do all this at the same time I am making the meal so everything will go on the table at the same time. What do you say?—Annoyed husband/chef

Dear Husband/Chef,

If your kitchen is small, that may be why your wife waits until you are done cooking to make her additions to the meal you have prepared. While you are doing the cooking, ask your wife if there is anything she would like to add to your menu, so she will not have to do it while the meal is on the table.

Dear Queenie,

There are some people I know who don’t like to talk on the phone or get together in person, and we mostly only communicate with each other by text or email. I prefer talking on the phone or meeting in person because you can tell a lot by a person’s expression and tone of voice.

Queenie, what do you think?—Old-fashioned

Dear Old-fashioned,

I agree with you, but these days not many people do. How can you tell whether a person is joking or being serious if you cannot see their face or at least hear their voice?

Dear Queenie,

My boyfriend is planning to move to another island (one not too far from here) where his family lives and he says he wants to live there forever. He wants me to go with him, but my family is all here and I am close to them.

Queenie, what can I do?—Girlfriend from here

Dear Girlfriend,

If you plan on having children someday and want them to be close to your family you probably will have to find another boyfriend. Take a break from this one, to find out which is more important to you – him or your family.