Dear Queenie,
What kind of gift should you give someone when you visit them for a special event or to stay for a few days?—Confused guest
Dear Guest,
Candy would be nice (as long as the friend is not on a diet), or other non-fattening food, or picture frames, or stationery and envelopes. Or, while you are there, keep an eye out for something they might like or need and get it for them.
Dear Queenie,
I have an Internet boyfriend but I don’t think we’ll ever be together in person. Meanwhile, I’ve met a man I really like.
Queenie, I don’t want to break up with my Internet boyfriend but I like this guy too. What should I do?—Undecided
Dear Undecided,
You can stay friends with your Internet “boyfriend” but if there is little or no chance you will ever be together in person, consider him a “friend”, not a “boyfriend”.
Something more may develop if you ever meet up with your Internet friend in person, but meanwhile give both of you the chance for an in-person romance.
Dear Queenie,
I work full time and sometimes overtime when necessary. My wife thinks when I’m off work I should help her around the house because keeping house is also a full-time job.
Queenie, I don’t mind doing it once in a while but she thinks it should be all the time. What do you think?—Overworked husband
Dear Husband,
Tell your wife you do not mind helping out once in a while, but if she wants help all the time she should hire someone – for which you would be paying.
Dear Queenie,
My children are all grown up and have good jobs and at every special event I give them money plus a personal item.
Queenie, is there anything else I should be doing?—Their father
Dear Father,
The gifts may be nice, but it is the time you spend with your children that really matters. I hope you are also giving them that gift too.
Dear Queenie,
I have always wanted to move away from here and I have been planning to do so, but my girlfriend likes it here and doesn’t want to go. She doesn’t even like to travel. So I have stayed here.
Now I have a chance to go away, but my girlfriend isn’t interested. My family thinks she is holding me back and I should go, but she does make me happy.
Queenie, should I go without her or stay for her sake?—Can’t decide
Dear Can’t decide,
Your family is right. If you do not take this chance, you may be stuck where you are forever. Under those circumstances, how long will you be happy with your stick-in-the mud girlfriend?
