Dear Queenie,
My grown-up son is abusive and we had a big argument a while ago and haven’t seen each other since then and this has been the most pleasant time I have had in a long time.
Queenie, should I try to make it up with him or let things stay the way they are?—Worried mother
Dear Mother,
If you caused the argument, you owe it to your son to apologise. If he caused it, it is up to him to try to make things right and in the meantime you can enjoy things the way they are now.
Dear Queenie,
I’ve been going to the same hairdresser for many years because she does a great job of styling my hair.
A few years ago she met my cousin and pretty soon they got married, but now they’re breaking up and my family says I should stop going to her for my hair. I have tried other hairdressers but they do not satisfy me.
Queenie, should I stay with her or keep trying to find someone else?—Curlylocks
Dear Curlylocks,
You have been going to the same hairdresser for a lot longer than she has been related to you in any way and you have not found anyone who does your hair as well as she does. Stick with her and tell your family to stay out of it. Family is family, but business is business.
Dear Queenie,
I think maybe one of my neighbors is dealing drugs. A lot of young people come for just a few minutes and we have found hypodermic needles in the street.
I’m afraid to call the police because the neighbor might find out and try to get back at me.
Queenie, what do you suggest?—Worried neighbor
Dear Worried neighbor,
I’m sure your local police have an anonymous tip line. When you call such a line they won’t ask you for personal information – that is why it is called “anonymous”.
Dear Queenie,
A girl I dated many years ago had a baby after we broke up. I’m happily married now but I can’t help being curious and I’d like to know if the baby was my child.
Queenie, should I try to find out, and if so, how?—Just curious
Dear Just curious,
You can ask your former girlfriend whether you are the father of the child she had back then, bearing in mind that it is quite possible that you are not. But whatever the answer is, leave the child out of it unless you are invited to have contact.
Dear Queenie,
My husband left me to be with his byside and now I don’t have to deal with all his problems – drinking too much, smoking pot, bad temper, supporting him when he loses his job, and taking care of him when he has health problems. And just like he cheated on me he will cheat on her, if he can.
Queenie, please publish this letter so I can tell her “thank you”.—The Ex-wife
Dear Ex-wife,
Here is your letter. I hope any women who are thinking of getting involved with a man who is already otherwise attached will learn from your experience.
