Dear Queenie,
I want to ask my doctor to give me birth control pills but I’m afraid he will tell my parents and they will freak out.
Queenie, how can I get them to be cool about this?—Teenager
Dear Teenager,
If you are still in your teens you are still growing and adding the hormones of birth control pills to your developing body is probably not the wisest course of action, which is just one reason your parents will “freak out.”
You are right to want to be prepared for what may happen, but it would be better to put off any possibility of becoming pregnant until you are older and better prepared to deal with the consequences.
Yes, I know this is difficult, especially if you have a boyfriend who is saying to you, “If you love me you will …,” but the answer to that is, “If you love me you won’t … .”
Dear Queenie,
My sister’s children are so spoiled!
They have a tantrum if things aren’t just the way they want, like if they don’t like the food that’s being served or they can’t have some toy that some other child is playing with, and they never do anything to help out like make their own bed or help clear the table after dinner or pick up their toys when they’re done playing with them.
And their parents never do one thing to discipline them.
Queenie, what’s going to become of kids like that? – Worried aunt
Dear Queenie,
I have a friend who calls me whenever she needs to vent about something that’s gone wrong. She goes on and on about it and can’t get in a word. It’s exhausting and boring and I’m sick of it, but I hate to hurt her feelings.
Queenie, how do I get away from her when she starts in like this?—Had enough
Dear Queenie,
A while ago I had an argument with my father and we both said some pretty nasty things and didn’t speak to each other for a while. Eventually I apologised for what I had said, but he wouldn’t forgive me.
A while after that he started another argument and this time I just said I was done talking to him and walked away.
I don’t want things to be like this between us but I’m tired of all the stress. The rest of our family agrees with me that enough is enough.
Queenie, do you think my father will ever learn to do better?—Unforgiving daughter
Dear Queenie,
One of our close friend’s children is getting married for the second time. We are invited to this wedding, as we were to the first one. We like the groom and new bride to be – and their family – very much. We may go, but we are not sure yet.
If we decide not to go, what is the custom on gifts for a second wedding, as we did a lot for the first wedding. I do not feel we have to – or should – give the amount we did for the first wedding. But what is appropriate?
