Young teenager

Dear Queenie,

  I’m going to be in high school next year and I haven’t ever had a girlfriend yet, but I know a lot of girls and I care about all of them.

  Queenie, when I have a girlfriend, will that mean I have to stop caring about other girls?—Young teenager

Dear Teenager,

  There are different degrees of love. When you are ready for a serious relationship, your feelings for that one woman will be much stronger than the feelings you have for girls now, and your feelings then for any other woman. And until that happens, you will not be ready to settle down with just one woman.