Reluctant boyfriend

Dear Queenie,

  My girlfriend and I have been living together for a couple of years and she talks a lot about us getting married, but I’m not ready for that yet.

  Queenie, what can I say to change the subject when she starts that kind of talk? I don’t want to get married, but I don’t want to break up with her.—Reluctant boyfriend

Dear Boyfriend,

  Tell her what you have told me – that you just are not ready yet for that kind of commitment. And if she becomes angry and tries to force the issue, beware! That kind of behaviour could be a warning sign of a potential abuser (yes, women can abuse their male partners!).