Dear Queenie,
My teenage daughter is all excited because she got pregnant with her boyfriend and is going to be a mother herself. I don’t know what to say to her – that she is going to ruin her life, or that I’m going to love being a grandmother, or what?
Queenie, help!—Worried mother
Dear Mother,
Do not tell your daughter she is going to ruin her life. That is not helpful and may not be true.
Your job now is to be as supportive as you can, and above all to encourage her to continue her education and to help her to do so, so that she will be as well-prepared as possible to take care of herself and her child when you no longer can help her with that – and may even need her to help take care of you too.
