Wedding guest

Dear Queenie,

  My niece is getting married, but I have not been invited to the wedding, only to a reception afterward. They said they are keeping the ceremony small, but I found out there will be about 20 people there.

  They also gave me some suggestions for a wedding gift when I asked what she might like, all rather expensive.

  Queenie, what do you think about all this? Should I be offended?—Wedding guest

Dear Wedding guest,

  Twenty people is a rather small group for a wedding ceremony, but considering the bride or the groom, or both, may have large immediate families, not to mention the bride’s and groom’s attendants, do not be offended, just enjoy the reception.

  As for the wedding gift, give them whatever gift you can afford – if you cannot decide what to buy, cash (or a cheque) will always be welcome.