Dear Queenie,
I just found out that I am pregnant (it was an accident) and my parents are all excited about their first grandchild.
The problem is that they want me and my boyfriend to get married right away before the baby is born, but we would rather wait until after the baby comes and have a big wedding then, if we even get married at all. They don’t want anything to do with that idea.
Queenie, what should we do?—Unwed mother
Dear Unwed mother,
The decision about a wedding – when and if – is yours to make and if you are not ready to make that commitment you should not let yourself be rushed into it just because you are pregnant. That could well be a recipe for eventual divorce.
You and your boyfriend should wait until you are certain you are ready to get married and then have as big a wedding as you want. But of course your parents will not be obliged to pay it.
