Dear Queenie,
My wife died recently and now I can’t stop worrying about something that happened many years ago. Back then I had an affair with one of our neighbors. I did tell my priest about it in confession and he made me do penance and absolved me of my sin, but I never said anything about it to my wife and I don’t know if she ever suspected anything.
Queenie, should I tell my children, who are all grown up, or do I just have to live with this secret?—Still feeling guilty
Dear Feeling Guilty,
Telling your children might make you feel better, but it probably would make them feel terrible. Is that what you want?
If you must tell somebody about this ancient mistake, talk to a professional counsellor who can help you find a way to forgive yourself.
