Dear Queenie,
My wife is always on her iPhone checking e-mail or texting someone or using one of the apps.
I’m not the only one who has noticed. Even our children complain that they can’t get her attention long enough to talk to her about anything.
I tried to talk to her about this but she just made excuses about looking up things she needs for her job or just spending a little time having fun.
Queenie, how do I get her to put down her phone and spend some time enjoying real life?—Smart phone widower
Dear Phone widower,
The problem may be that your wife does not enjoy the responsibilities of “real life” as much as she does her addiction to her iPhone.
Make a list of your activities when you are together – driving, eating a meal, etc. – and – together – pick the ones when you feel it is important to have her attention. For example, she can play with the phone while you are driving, but must turn it off when you are eating a meal together.
And certainly, she must be prepared to give your children her full attention when they want to talk to her, even if the matter seems trivial to her!
