Dear Queenie,
My husband and I have been married for several years and his grown-up daughter still refuses to speak to me. I have tried to be nice to her and even helped her out when she was short of money but even then she didn’t even say “thanks.”
Queenie, what more can I do?—Second wife
Dear Second wife,
Your stepdaughter probably resents the fact that you have “replaced” her mother, but that does not excuse her behaviour. Your husband – her father – should insist that she treat you with respect at the very least, even if she does not like you. And unless/until she alters her attitude, have as little to do with her as possible, including no more financial assistance.
