Dear Queenie,
My boyfriend and I have been together for more than five years. We have said we want to spend the rest of our lives together, but agreed that we aren’t interested in getting married.
Now I think he’s planning to propose to me and I know I want to spend the rest of my life together with him, but thinking about all the headaches and problems of planning a wedding just scares me to death and I’m afraid things will change between us if we get married.
Queenie, what should I tell him if he proposes?—Scared of marriage
Dear Scared,
If the two of you are happy together and plan to spend the rest of your lives that way, why should you be afraid of making a formal commitment to do so?
If it is just the thought of planning a big, formal ceremony that scares you, why not plan to elope, or at least just have a small private wedding ceremony? If, later on, you regret having done so, you can always plan a big formal affair to celebrate a wedding anniversary.
