Dear Queenie,
My best friend is expecting a baby and I am very happy for her even though I have been trying to get pregnant for a couple of years but haven’t been able to yet.
Her family held a baby shower for her and I would have expected to be invited, but I wasn’t.
Queenie, should I ask her why not or just let it go?—Offended friend
Dear Friend,
There could be several reasons you did not receive an invitation. The event might have been for family only. The invitation could have gotten lost in the mail – especially these days! The person who sent out the invitations could have gotten your address wrong or accidentally left you off the list. Your friend might have thought you would find a baby shower upsetting because you have not been able to have a baby of your own.
For all you know, your friend might have expected to see you there and while you are wondering why you were not invited, she may be wondering why you did not attend. By all means ask her about this – casually, please. Do not make a big issue of it.
