Dear Queenie,
When I was little my mother’s boyfriend molested me. I told my mother and she broke up with him, but after a while they got together again and he molested me again and this time she stayed with him. In fact, they’re still together to this day.
Now I’m grown up and married and I have children of my own and I told my mother she can see the children when she visits us but I won’t let them go to her house as long as she is still with that man and since then we haven’t seen her at all.
Queenie, why would a woman choose a sexual predator over her own child and grandchildren?—Offended daughter
Dear Daughter,
Your mother is so afraid of being alone that her man is more important to her than anything else, including her daughter’s welfare.
The most important thing for you is to protect your children from the man who molested you. If your mother complains about not seeing her grandchildren, be sure to tell her – again and again, if necessary – exactly why it is so and that it will stay that way as long as she is with him in any way.
