I have a friend who doesn’t drive, so I give her lifts whenever I can, but sometimes I just can’t help her. When this happens I try to explain why, but she gets mad and calls me a liar and stops speaking to me for a while.
Queenie, I want us to stay friends. What can I do?—Male friend (not boyfriend)
Stop letting your friend take advantage of you. Start asking her to chip in for gas whenever she rides with you. Remind her that you are doing her a favour, and when driving her is not convenient for you, tell her so clearly (but nicely). And if she stops speaking to you, at least you will not have to be giving her rides.