Dear Queenie,
After my husband died I had vases installed on the sides of his gravestone for the flowers I bring every time I visit his grave. But the next time I go, I see that someone else (I think it’s his mother) has put some other flowers in the vases along with mine and spoiled the whole arrangement, or simply dumped my flowers out and replaced them with their own.
Queenie, why do they do this and how can I get them to stop?—Grieving widow
Dear Grieving,
Talk to his mother. If indeed she is the one who is adding to or replacing your floral arrangements, leave one of the vases for her use and ask her use that one and leave yours alone. Try to understand that you are not the only one who is mourning the loss of your late husband.
